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Photos of Mrs Shrink or is that great,great granny porn?

Mrs Shrink is a bit younger than I.

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Good advice mate.
I’m sure this will help Fife and many others who may be struggling a bit but not brave enough to put their hand up to it like Fifehibs has done.

Any links to the granny porn?
Asking for a friend.
Iptv- live tv- Adult .... someone told me:lookaround:
 
This lockdown is really starting to get into my head, I don’t mind working from home but the lack of being able to get out to see clients and have meetings is beginning to take its toll. The same 4 walls all day every day and I am beginning to hate the house, the actual building not the fact it’s my family home.

walks are good but I’ve spent years out and about in meetings or office and this being stuck is a real head fuck.
Hibs helped at the weekend but even the online viewing feels so false.
 
I was conscious today that last week had passed and I hadn’t produced what I needed to.

im not really sure how that happened but I was conscious I wasn’t in the best place. But once I become conscious of it I can fix it.

I think the problem is when I don’t realize it.
 
I was conscious today that last week had passed and I hadn’t produced what I needed to.

im not really sure how that happened but I was conscious I wasn’t in the best place. But once I become conscious of it I can fix it.

I think the problem is when I don’t realize it.
I find it’s getting harder to fix and snap out of it.
There is no reason for it but today I feel totally defeated.
 
I find it’s getting harder to fix and snap out of it.
There is no reason for it but today I feel totally defeated.
Have you tried a happiness diary? Just a couple of notes a day with a score on how you are feeling. Something you’re grateful for like a good coffee. Hibs on a Saturday. Friends. Family.

I think if you have something to review then it helps you understand how you are feeling?
 
I find it’s getting harder to fix and snap out of it.
There is no reason for it but today I feel totally defeated.

Similar to yourself but I've found Monday's particularly challenging recently, still sitting at my desk but getting things done seems harder. I've concluded it's just the lack of transition from being home at the weekend and then going to the office on a Monday.
Stick in there
 
Have you tried a happiness diary? Just a couple of notes a day with a score on how you are feeling. Something you’re grateful for like a good coffee. Hibs on a Saturday. Friends. Family.

I think if you have something to review then it helps you understand how you are feeling?
No but I’ll give it a try. Thanks
 
Similar to yourself but I've found Monday's particularly challenging recently, still sitting at my desk but getting things done seems harder. I've concluded it's just the lack of transition from being home at the weekend and then going to the office on a Monday.
Stick in there
Thanks, you too.
 
This lockdown is really starting to get into my head, I don’t mind working from home but the lack of being able to get out to see clients and have meetings is beginning to take its toll. The same 4 walls all day every day and I am beginning to hate the house, the actual building not the fact it’s my family home.

walks are good but I’ve spent years out and about in meetings or office and this being stuck is a real head fuck.
Hibs helped at the weekend but even the online viewing feels so false.
It might help if you try to create more separation between work and home life if you haven't already. Eg putting all work equipment away at the end of the day, trying to stick to fixed work hours, even introducing a daily 'commute' (even if it's a 5 minute walk round the block before and after work). I've even considered putting a suit on for work but haven't done it yet because a) I'm too lazy, and b) I suspect they won't fit....

I spent 2 years in a job working exclusively from home before the pandemic came along and it was driving me nuts, I think it was making me more and more insular not getting out to see people. So I'm not finding this one so bad, I guess because I'm a bit more used to it and it probably helps that so many others are in the same boat now.
 
lots of you should try and get your hands on a SAD light.... loads out there. I just sent one to a friend who is suffering badly in this stay at home pandemic... this particular one was £50 on amazon and arrived the at lunchtime the next day.... they really can help troops:54:
 
Mrs Shrink is a bit younger than I.

:54:
Everybody is !!
 
I think I'm pretty lucky afrer reading what some of you guys on here are going through. Since the 1st lockdown I've probably only worked about 4 weeks in total, I'm on furlough now till April. I'm pretty routine, get up about 7 when mrs goes to work,couple of hours housework then out with the dog for 2 or 3 hours , in the afternoon cowboy film then get tea ready I've found out I quite enjoy cooking . If pubs were open life would be perfect. Hope everybody stays safe ?
 
This lockdown is really starting to get into my head, I don’t mind working from home but the lack of being able to get out to see clients and have meetings is beginning to take its toll. The same 4 walls all day every day and I am beginning to hate the house, the actual building not the fact it’s my family home.

walks are good but I’ve spent years out and about in meetings or office and this being stuck is a real head fuck.
Hibs helped at the weekend but even the online viewing feels so false.
Totally get this. I feel like a caged animal.
 
Mrs Shrink is a bit younger than I.

:54:
The lockdown must be a nightmare for her too , what with her o levels and stuff
 
Couple of years before she has to worry about that.
 
I think its fair to say almost everyone is suffering to some extent or varying degree atm. Had a difficult week myself last week due to demands on my time/family health that can seem overwhelming at times.

One suggestion Id humbly make is that trying to'fix' whats wrong has proved counterproductive for me in the past. I've found if I can accept there will be some down time and try to approach each day with a clean slate rather than look for a solution to why I feel the way I do; It at least gives you a bit peace from the repetititive thoughts that plague you during a diffuclt period. Ive alsmost tried to find a way to live with it rather than trying to kick against it. It took me about 20 years to get that conclusion tho so I understand it might not be everyones best approach.

Great to see everyone contributing to this thread..some very honest and helpful posts.
 
For those of you no longer going to an office and working from home and struggling with the same 4 walls day after day have you tried the technique of the 'false commute".❓

What you do is get up as normal but rather than go straight to your PC you jump in your car (or bus or walk) and drive a circular route back to your house.

This sub consciously tells your mind its now time to work and then at night when you finish work you do exactly the same in reverse.

The theory being when you come back into your house your mind tells you are now home and its relaxation and chill out time.✅

Of course it sounds rather strange but maybe this might work for someone.✅
 
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Surely, when you come home after the morning commute, you'll think you're finished for the day, too.??
Maybe better to reverse home in the morning, then reverse all the way to the office at the end of the day?
With other people off work and weans off school, the roads shouldn't be that busy for the reverse trips.
I'm I going mad?????
 
The lockdown must be a nightmare for her too , what with her o levels and stuff
Shrink is ragin she won't let him with her A levels
 
For those of you no longer going to an office and working from home and struggling with the same 4 walls day after day have you tried the technique of the 'false commute".❓

What you do is get up as normal but rather than go straight to your PC you jump in your car (or bus or walk) and drive a circular route back to your house.

This sub consciously tells your mind its now time to work and then at night when you finish work you do exactly the same in reverse.

The theory being when you come back into your house your mind tells you are now home and its relaxation and chill out time.✅

Of course it sounds rather strange but maybe this might work for someone.✅

Bugger that, I am fair enjoing the extra 1.5 hours I get in my scratcher.
 
For those of you no longer going to an office and working from home and struggling with the same 4 walls day after day have you tried the technique of the 'false commute".❓

What you do is get up as normal but rather than go straight to your PC you jump in your car (or bus or walk) and drive a circular route back to your house.

This sub consciously tells your mind its now time to work and then at night when you finish work you do exactly the same in reverse.

The theory being when you come back into your house your mind tells you are now home and its relaxation and chill out time.✅

Of course it sounds rather strange but maybe this might work for someone.✅
This was actually one of the top tips that I read when I started working from home in Jan 19. There were others but I found this one works. I used to drop the kids off at school then go a half hour walk and then back to the house to "work". It did work really well.

Of course not doing it just now because its too bloody cold outside.

Pomodoro technique was another I found really helpful - I'm oversimplifying but set a timer for 25 minutes and work. no interruptions. I know that many of you with young children working from home that's impossible.....
 
I like to get up in time for Bargain Hunt.
 
One of my psychobabble newsletters. I first heard Tasha on Radio 4, and her angle was about self awareness.

Dear Purple & Green,

Last week, something strange happened to me. Even though nothing in my life had changed—it was still Groundhog Day, every day—I was suddenly flattened by exhaustion and fear. The best way I can describe it is that I wanted to jump out of my skin while simultaneously taking a two-week nap.

At first I thought it was just me. But as I spoke to more people, almost everyone seemed to be hitting the COVID wall at the same time. Social media was awash sentiments like “I’m not sure what I can do to feel good. All my resources are depleted” and “today I told my therapist that the adrenaline I’ve been relying on for the past ten months has run out. He’s been hearing that from every other client this month.”

Journalist Nylah Burton dubbed this moment “the new nadir of the pandemic.” Over the last year, we have dutifully implemented coping tools like keeping a routine, staying healthy and connected, and reducing our anxiety. But seemingly overnight, these tools aren’t working like they used to.

Our frustration about this can easily give birth to self-criticism. Personally, I noticed I was falling into the rabbit hole of rumination: Seriously, what is wrong with me? I’ve made it through almost a yearof this—why can’t I make it through the day?!

And especially right now, judgmental thinking is more dangerous than it seems. Even during “normal” times, research shows that self-criticism worsens depression and depletes resilience. So, to get through this final phase of the pandemic (however long it will be), there is one urgent skill we can add to our coping toolkit: self-compassion.

For all intents and purposes, self-compassion is the opposite of self-criticism. It means viewing our suffering and shortcomings with understanding and acceptance.

Self-compassion brings several tailor-made benefits for our COVID-related challenges. During stressful events, it deepens our emotional resilience and self-worth, and lessens depression and shame. It helps us cope with illness. It buffers the negative impact of trauma and even propels post-traumatic growth.

How, then, can we increase our self-compassion? Pioneering researcher Kristin Kneff has done incredible work in this space (her website has several excellent tools). But today, let’s focus on one practical approach: better monitoring our inner monologue.

To illustrate the power of constructive self-talk—both personally and professionally—my colleague Steven Rogelberg studied senior executives at the end of a leadership development program. Each person wrote a letter to their future selves about how the experience shaped them. Compared to the self-critical executives, those who wrote constructive, compassionate notes were less stressed, more motivating as leaders, and better performers at work.

So if you notice that you’re feeling bad about yourself right now—guilty, fearful, or unable to cope**—take notice of whether you’re being self-critical or self-compassionate. If you veer into the judgment zone, try using what I call “the friend test,” and ask, Would I say what I just said to myself to someone I like and respect?”

Especially in times of stress, we can pull ourselves down without even realizing it. But the good news is that removing these well-being barriers is completely under our control.

This month, I hope you’ll join me in making a resolution: as the wise author C. JoyBell C. vowed, “the only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”

Here’s to loving ourselves for making it this far, and compassionately navigating whatever comes next,

~Tasha

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Bump. How is everyone? (In particular @FifeHibs )
I'm weary and still feel on my last nerve. Just ticking off the days though.
If only this was still the 90s, I'd be able to get a load of jellies ;)
 
Short notice but I’m doing a wee mental health awareness session on zoom at 1pm today and every Wednesday if anyone wants to join pm me
 
Will post more on this thread later
 
If only this was still the 90s, I'd be able to get a load of jellies ;)

Available at all good confectioners Ian.

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Available at all good confectioners Ian.

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Do they have gelatine in them?Otherwise non vegan.
 
Short notice but I’m doing a wee mental health awareness session on zoom at 1pm today and every Wednesday if anyone wants to join pm me
I’m not home today, but I’ll try and get on next week
 
Bump. How is everyone? (In particular @FifeHibs )
I'm weary and still feel on my last nerve. Just ticking off the days though.
If only this was still the 90s, I'd be able to get a load of jellies ;)
Good shout. Still a day at a time approach here too.
The reopening of early year's, nurseries and schools for specific age groups from next week a massive lift at this end.

Keep on ✅
Short notice but I’m doing a wee mental health awareness session on zoom at 1pm today and every Wednesday if anyone wants to join pm me

Fantastic. I'll try and get onto these.

Qualified as a Mental Health First Aider recently which will be a massive help, not only for myself but the wider community - Hibs and locality - and future work/projects I'm involved with.

If I can help anyone with anything, always available to help ✅
 
My b
Ohh, I have my moments!!!

I think it is a minefield ( should that be mindfield!) as what’s good for one is not for another. Also, it effects people all different ways, and for different reasons. The result is very much the same though. It can be very debilitating.
It stole a lot of my confidence, though I’m in quite a good place these days.
During the time we won the cup, I was suffering quite bad. I went to the final and had a superb day, but the following day I was engulfed with negatives thoughts. It was very cruel.. One of the scariest, but best bits of advice I got was you learn to live with it. You manage it and learn enough tricks to keep on top of it . Then eventually , hopefully, like this virus, you suppress it enough that it’s not an issue.

One day you can be the best person to give support / advice, the next week , you can be the one who needs it.
Im up for both .
my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
 
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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
Sorry to read that. My sympathy is with you and your family. Stay safe.
 
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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
That's horrible.
Really sorry to hear that,my sincerest condolences to you and your brother.
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
I'm really sorry to hear that eck, hope she's found her own peace mate.
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
Thoughts with you and your family
 
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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
Bloody hell. What can one say. Best to you and yours, mate.
 
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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
I'm really sorry to hear that Eck. Thoughts with you and your family.
 
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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
How sad. No words can ease your pain just now.
If myself or anyone else can help out in any way, don't be afraid to reach out.
 
Condolences to you and yours eck. That's a real tragedy.
 

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