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my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
Sorry too hear that, relative who works in the hospital was just saying she's never seen so many attempted and suicide cases coming through the door, show how hard times really are.
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP

Sorry to read that Eck, my deepest condolences to you and your family.
 
Condolences and best wishes Eck that’s a tough one
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
Just saw this the now. Don’t know you but I’ve seen some of your posts. I’m very sorry to hear about her death. Condolences to you and your family. Stay safe.
 
So sad Eck, condolences to you and your family.
 
Thanks to everyone for their kind remarks,
 
Thanks to everyone for their kind remarks,
Sending Hibernian strength to you at this time ?
 
My heart felt sympathies Eck to you and everyone affected by this terribly sad news.
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
So sorry to read this Eck. Thoughts are with you and your family.
 

BIG G
 
This maybe a bit out there but due to the stress of working 60 hours plus a week In a toxic environment (which will be becoming to an end in 10 weeks) and trying to look after my mother with Parkinson’s and a recent TIA the doctor has suggested Fluoxetine. I’m trying to hold off and see what running, better diet and less work stress cwill be able to do rather than take the medication offered.
the sun light definitely helps
 
This maybe a bit out there but due to the stress of working 60 hours plus a week In a toxic environment (which will be becoming to an end in 10 weeks) and trying to look after my mother with Parkinson’s and a recent TIA the doctor has suggested Fluoxetine. I’m trying to hold off and see what running, better diet and less work stress cwill be able to do rather than take the medication offered.
the sun light definitely helps
If you have never been prescribed an anti-depressant before most doctors will go with a light dose of Fluoxetine (Prozac) or Sertraline which is also popular with medics at the minute. Diet is definitely worth looking at as there is now a shift in mental health practice with a focus on the importance of gut bacteria. If you do decided to go onto Fluoxetine then you can taper off it quite safely with very little side effects compared to some other SSRI's. 60hrs is a lot of hours to work even in an environment that isn't toxic.

It's about having a balance and ultimately deciding what is important in your life. I am not one for chasing money and make no assumptions that you work those hrs to do just that, however i'd rather be just getting by and somewhat comfortable and enjoying my hobbies whilst also being happy at work. I'm sorry to hear that your mother has Parkinson's and of your recent TIA and i sincerely hope you start to feel better soon amigo.
 
If you have never been prescribed an anti-depressant before most doctors will go with a light dose of Fluoxetine (Prozac) or Sertraline which is also popular with medics at the minute. Diet is definitely worth looking at as there is now a shift in mental health practice with a focus on the importance of gut bacteria. If you do decided to go onto Fluoxetine then you can taper off it quite safely with very little side effects compared to some other SSRI's. 60hrs is a lot of hours to work even in an environment that isn't toxic.

It's about having a balance and ultimately deciding what is important in your life. I am not one for chasing money and make no assumptions that you work those hrs to do just that, however i'd rather be just getting by and somewhat comfortable and enjoying my hobbies whilst also being happy at work. I'm sorry to hear that your mother has Parkinson's and of your recent TIA and i sincerely hope you start to feel better soon amigo.
I have never felt like this ever, strangely it feels easier to open up to strangers rather than those too close. ( I mean that in a very appreciative way as I don’t know what state I would be in)
There was no reward for OT just work had to get done. Meetings were being held at 8/9 at night and weekends.
Just want to get back to feeling my old self preferably without the pills.
 
I have never felt like this ever, strangely it feels easier to open up to strangers rather than those too close. ( I mean that in a very appreciative way as I don’t know what state I would be in)
There was no reward for OT just work had to get done. Meetings were being held at 8/9 at night and weekends.
Just want to get back to feeling my old self preferably without the pills.
If it helps mate, when I had my recent travails and got to the point of feeling like I was cracking up, I had a pretty frank discussion with my GP where the possibility of antidepressants was floated. My feeling was that I was reluctant, simply because I knew there were very clear reasons why I was feeling the way I did, as opposed to a sort of ... vaguer sense of not feeling good, or indeed an actual chemical imbalance.

I felt what I needed was sleep (I had chronic insomnia), so he prescribed me 7 days pf sleeping pills, which helped break the cycle. I'm not back to my usual sound and restful 8hrs, more like 5 or 6 and a bit broken, but nevertheless, not seeing 4 and 5am on the regular has had a transformative effect. I'm miles off being happy or even content, but I'm not in the fucking pit I was 2 or 3 weeks ago.

Go with your gut feeling on it, it's your body and mind after all. And the lifestyle methods you mention certainly can't hurt either way, so defo give them a go.

Just remember (as I'm sure I've said before) – you are not making a meal of this. Keep talking here, and accept that the road to recovery will be incremental - there's no magic bullet - but things will get better, precisely because you've acknowledged your feelings, and are working proactively to do something about them. Keep on keeping on, bro.
 
If it helps mate, when I had my recent travails and got to the point of feeling like I was cracking up, I had a pretty frank discussion with my GP where the possibility of antidepressants was floated. My feeling was that I was reluctant, simply because I knew there were very clear reasons why I was feeling the way I did, as opposed to a sort of ... vaguer sense of not feeling good, or indeed an actual chemical imbalance.

I felt what I needed was sleep (I had chronic insomnia), so he prescribed me 7 days pf sleeping pills, which helped break the cycle. I'm not back to my usual sound and restful 8hrs, more like 5 or 6 and a bit broken, but nevertheless, not seeing 4 and 5am on the regular has had a transformative effect. I'm miles off being happy or even content, but I'm not in the fucking pit I was 2 or 3 weeks ago.

Go with your gut feeling on it, it's your body and mind after all. And the lifestyle methods you mention certainly can't hurt either way, so defo give them a go.

Just remember (as I'm sure I've said before) – you are not making a meal of this. Keep talking here, and accept that the road to recovery will be incremental - there's no magic bullet - but things will get better, precisely because you've acknowledged your feelings, and are working proactively to do something about them. Keep on keeping on, bro.
I second what aggie says regarding the importance of sleep. If you are waking up during the night or earlier than usual (very common in depression) then perhaps speaking to your doctor who then might prescribe something along the lines of Zopiclone which is a non-benzo sleeping pill that actively gets you off to sleep but isn't addictive in nature unlike valium.

I go out walking regularly now as my back can no longer hack running, and i definitely feel the benefits not only physically but mentally as well. So if you can, and i know how hard it is just to get your feet out of the bed sometimes when our moods are low, try and just start walking. Even if it's just to the shops and back to get milk or whatever you will feel better for getting out of your house. You might even bump into that friend or similar and have a chat that lifts your spirits. Anyway just keep chatting on here which also helps.

Zopiclone: a sleeping pill used to treat bouts of insomnia
 
I second what aggie says regarding the importance of sleep. If you are waking up during the night or earlier than usual (very common in depression) then perhaps speaking to your doctor who then might prescribe something along the lines of Zopiclone which is a non-benzo sleeping pill that actively gets you off to sleep but isn't addictive in nature unlike valium.

I go out walking regularly now as my back can no longer hack running, and i definitely feel the benefits not only physically but mentally as well. So if you can, and i know how hard it is just to get your feet out of the bed sometimes when our moods are low, try and just start walking. Even if it's just to the shops and back to get milk or whatever you will feel better for getting out of your house. You might even bump into that friend or similar and have a chat that lifts your spirits. Anyway just keep chatting on here which also helps.

Zopiclone: a sleeping pill used to treat bouts of insomnia
Zopiclone is indeed what they gave me. Works a treat, I must say! Pity they never gave me a few hundred..
 
Bumping this up again just to see how everybody's doing and also because I find it quite easy to forget that you never know what folk are going through on the other side of their keyboard, so I personally find it useful to remind myself now and again.
 
I am well, thanks. Delighted to be seeing my oldest son for the first time since christmas tonight and my second son tomorrow! Hope everyone is well?
 
I am well, thanks. Delighted to be seeing my oldest son for the first time since christmas tonight and my second son tomorrow! Hope everyone is well?
I went to see my folks this morning for the first time since Christmas, which made my maw greet of course. Felt weird to be out of the county and getting stuck in slow traffic was a pain in the hoop so I guess the pandemic had some upsides! Really feels like we've finally turned a corner, the sun being out helps with that. Fingers crossed it's all forward steps from here.
 
I'm a million miles away from where I was at in Jan/Feb. The prospect of going for a beer in the Meadows after work tonight with a couple of good pals - you'd like to think we'll never take the small stuff for granted again. Because it's not really the "small stuff" - it is in fact the only stuff, in the final analysis.

Happy Fri-YAY, Bouncers!
 
I'm a million miles away from where I was at in Jan/Feb. The prospect of going for a beer in the Meadows after work tonight with a couple of good pals - you'd like to think we'll never take the small stuff for granted again. Because it's not really the "small stuff" - it is in fact the only stuff, in the final analysis.

Happy Fri-YAY, Bouncers!
That's great to hear, enjoy your beers. Maybe don't do boxing with the young uns up at the Meadows though 😂
 
My b

my 59 year old sister in law committed suicide on Monday 1st feb. RIP
It's a few weeks go and at the same time I'm really sorry to read this, eck. I do hope that you and your family are coping with such a difficult situation. As a practitioner and one with a lived experience, please feel free to get in touch if you and yours become stuck a little. Very willing to offer a bit of support..

Take care of yourselves.
 
It's a few weeks go and at the same time I'm really sorry to read this, eck. I do hope that you and your family are coping with such a difficult situation. As a practitioner and one with a lived experience, please feel free to get in touch if you and yours become stuck a little. Very willing to offer a bit of support..

Take care of yourselves.

That was very kind of you Stu and good to see you back.
 
Great thread and good to know people can talk about this now without fearing negative responses. I’ve been on anti-depressants for a long time and obviously, the way the past year has been hasn’t helped. Thankfully, I have kids and they keep me focussed and busy as well as my job. But it is a struggle at times and I’m just hoping that we can continue to see more restrictions ease and people have more freedom to get out and about. I’m not saying that the lockdowns were without merit, we are dealing with a pandemic here but they will leave a mark particularly with people who were already finding life a struggle or hard enough before this virus and subsequent lockdowns occurred
 
Great thread and good to know people can talk about this now without fearing negative responses. I’ve been on anti-depressants for a long time and obviously, the way the past year has been hasn’t helped. Thankfully, I have kids and they keep me focussed and busy as well as my job. But it is a struggle at times and I’m just hoping that we can continue to see more restrictions ease and people have more freedom to get out and about. I’m not saying that the lockdowns were without merit, we are dealing with a pandemic here but they will leave a mark particularly with people who were already finding life a struggle or hard enough before this virus and subsequent lockdowns occurred
Absolutely agree and the other thing we'll need to be conscious of over the coming weeks and months is that not everyone will be able to seamlessly switch back to "normality". I'm sure there will be lots of folk feeling varying degrees of anxiety about going back to offices / on public transport / even meeting friends etc
 
Absolutely agree and the other thing we'll need to be conscious of over the coming weeks and months is that not everyone will be able to seamlessly switch back to "normality". I'm sure there will be lots of folk feeling varying degrees of anxiety about going back to offices / on public transport / even meeting friends etc
Absolutely mate. This will leave a mark for sure and even when we get the go ahead to pick up on things in life we have had to put on hold whilst in lockdown, people will still be concerned about doing so. Mental health services are going to be working hard for some time sadly in dealing with the outcome of the past year or so
 
Recently went to the doctors as mental health has been crap for a long time but collapsed completely recently, same meds for 12 years on the same dose with no doctor monitoring if they where in fact working or not (turns out not), so had them upped and went to see a councillor who has said that he thinks I actually have a form of ptsd and may have had it for years without realising, crazy times for all mental health.
 
Being a Hibs supporter can't be much help.
 
Recently went to the doctors as mental health has been crap for a long time but collapsed completely recently, same meds for 12 years on the same dose with no doctor monitoring if they where in fact working or not (turns out not), so had them upped and went to see a councillor who has said that he thinks I actually have a form of ptsd and may have had it for years without realising, crazy times for all mental health.
Hopefully the new dose helps Mandy
 
Hopefully the new dose helps Mandy

Christ he has the clap tae, neither wonder he has upped his meds. :giggley:
 
It's a few weeks go and at the same time I'm really sorry to read this, eck. I do hope that you and your family are coping with such a difficult situation. As a practitioner and one with a lived experience, please feel free to get in touch if you and yours become stuck a little. Very willing to offer a bit of support..

Take care of yourselves.
Thank you for your kind sentiments, we finally laid her to rest on Monday at mortenhall and in turn has given us a sense of closure at last.
 
Thank you for your kind sentiments, we finally laid her to rest on Monday at mortenhall and in turn has given us a sense of closure at last.
It's an important time as we travel through those stages of grief, it's good to hear that it helps a little.

Maybe this has come to mind with you eck but it's commonly said that there are two simple questions that can sometimes haunt suicide survivors (i.e. those who have had someone close die this way) a little, they are:

Why did they do it?

Could I have done something to prevent it?

I think regards the first question we need to say - even quite bluntly as it was said to me - that, sadly, we can never know the complete answer. I found the simple idea that understanding it's a question that can never be adequately dealt with was a help to me. It was hard to hear but it helped. There can be no point in pursuing this line of thought, for anyone's benefit but it certainly is part of the journey towards making some sense of things. It's true to say that the person themselves may not even have known.

Regards the second question, we have a habit of wondering if we missed the signs or weren't somehow attentive enough. We can never have had allthe clues, such a decision by a person is a highly complex one. Guilt and self-reproach can be common in survivors but sometimes people who have lost their lives to suicide can become calmer in their latter days - their mood had lifted positively and they seem to be 'better'. This can be because they have already made their peace with their decision. We cannot ever be truly to blame for the actions they took, no matter how much we loved them or how close we were. To blame ourselves can be potentialy harmful to our own health and so we must remember that we are in no way responsible.

Wish you and your family peace, eck. Best wishes.
 
That was very kind of you Stu and good to see you back.
Cheers and I hope you're well mate.
 

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